Kristen King, MBA, MPS, CLC

Actual conversation with a client today…

Client: And I just feel like I’m stupid.

Me: So then what happens?

C: Then I do a ridiculous amount of research and stay up all night working to write this thing and go totally overboard to prove myself.

Me: Okay, but are you proving yourself or are you punishing yourself?

C: …Oh shit. [big breath out] I’m punishing myself. For being stupid. Which I don’t need to do. Because I’m not stupid. So why am I doing this? Oh my God. You need to make one of those “oh shit moment” posts about this.

 Your wish is my command. 

If you could use some more “oh shit” moments in your life, we should talk. I get people unstuck so they can live their life authentically, powerfully, and unapologetically. I’m on a mission to support 100 people in 100 days through powerful professional conversations focused on clarity and transformation. If you’re serious about creating a shift in your life, your business, or both, book a clarity call here: http://tinyurl.com/altitudeadjustmentintro (or share the link with a friend)

No bullshit. No toxic positivity. Just a new perspective.

Today I got REALLY mad about something that I absolutely cannot control or change by being mad. I really wanted to lose my shit, but it would have done nothing but raise my blood pressure and ruin my day. I’m still mad, but I’m also really proud of myself for running the mad instead of letting the mad run me.

I’ve always been able to choose my thoughts, but it took me a good couple of years to learn that and a few more to believe it—and then a few more still to actually do it. If you’re still working on that trick, we should talk. I get people unstuck so they can live their life authentically, powerfully, and unapologetically. I’m on a mission to support 100 people in 100 days through powerful professional conversations focused on clarity and transformation. If you’re serious about creating a shift in your life, book a clarity call here: http://tinyurl.com/altitudeadjustmentintro (or share the link with a friend)

No bullshit. No toxic positivity. Just you, running the show.

Mid-weekend reminder:

 No one will die from having to get dressed out of the laundry basket for a few days.

 You’re not a failure because you have a sinkload of dirty dishes.

 Your house will not cave in and your children / pets / houseplants be immediately confiscated if the floor doesn’t get swept immediately.

If you can use what’s left of your weekend to connect instead of to get caught up on your to-do list, do it. You’re allowed. You’re more than allowed to set aside the stuff that really doesn’t matter in favor of the stuff that really does. It’ll be there later—this is not a crisis. But totally burning yourself out would be.

If burnout feels unavoidable, we should talk. I get people unstuck—and off the hamster wheel—so they can live their life authentically, powerfully, and unapologetically. I’m on a mission to support 100 people in 100 days through powerful professional conversations focused on clarity and transformation. Book a free clarity call for yourself here: http://tinyurl.com/altitudeadjustmentintro (or share the link with a friend)

No bullshit. No toxic positivity. Just you, allowed to breathe.

No matter what I do, this cat wants to sleep on top of my knees. I have no idea why this is her favorite spot, but the moment I get in bed she’s here and ready to zonk out perched on my kneecaps. I can’t stand it. It’s uncomfortable and I don’t like to be touched while I’m trying to fall asleep. But for whatever reason it’s her happy place so I tolerate it as long as I can and then I roll over and she settles behind my legs instead of on them.

We don’t always have to understand why the ones we love need a certain thing. THEY may not even understand why they need it. All we have to do is believe them when they tell us, and support them how we can.

I’m on a mission to support 100 people in 100 days through powerful professional conversations focused on clarity and transformation. Book a free clarity call for yourself here: http://tinyurl.com/altitudeadjustmentintro (or share the link with a friend)

No bullshit. No toxic positivity. Just support.

You know how with toddlers, what seems like the tiniest thing can set off a tantrum of epic proportions? Like, you give them the yellow sippy cup instead of the orange one and they lose their shit and are inconsolable for 15 minutes? Well, I didn’t have any tantrums but I totally felt like that toddler today—super big feels super close to the surface and every little thing felt HUGE and like I’d burst into tears at any second.

Days like this used to send me into a spiral that lasted for weeks. I’d be mad at everyone. I picked fights. I overreacted to everything. I lived inside shame and guilt, which made it all infinitely worse. Any joy that could have been had in the day, I squashed it. It was awful.

I’ve learned that instead of trying to buck up and power through—which inevitably leads to a meltdown for me—I can just…let myself have a rough day. I acknowledged the feels and didn’t make myself wrong for them. I asked for help when I needed it. I enjoyed the things I could and set aside the things I couldn’t. I reminded myself that I’m still in the process of bouncing back from the flu, I’m still sore AF from my biking adventure, and I’ve been “ON” all week so my reserves are depleted. Of course I’m feeling rough. I don’t need to punish myself. I need to love on myself. So I am. And it helps, a lot.

Not every day has to be a red-letter, A+, #bestdayever, #goodvibesonly kind of day. Some days you can just do what you need to get through; it’s still a win. It’s actually a really big win, because it means you listened to your body and your inner wisdom and honored them. No matter what kind of day you had today, you get to love yourself and be proud of yourself for it. And if that feels impossible, we should talk.

I get people unstuck so they can live their life authentically, powerfully, and unapologetically. Even on the rough days. 

 I’m on a mission to support 100 people in 100 days through powerful professional conversations focused on clarity and transformation. Book a free clarity call for yourself here: http://tinyurl.com/altitudeadjustmentintro (or share the link with a friend)

No bullshit. No toxic positivity. Just whatever you need right now.

Last week someone contacted me because they wanted to share one of my Facebook posts—but first they wanted me to edit it because my “colorful” language didn’t fit their brand. They politely offered multiple alternatives I could use in place of “bullshit” to make my post shareable. I declined.

 I spent far too many years editing myself to be more acceptable to other people. No more. Hard pass.

 “Bullshit” ain’t nothing. I say fuck a lot too. (And I don’t plan on stopping any time soon.) Soooo maybe don’t scroll down.

 My words are who I am. If my words aren’t for you, neither am I. I’m fully okay with that. And I’m not going to make you feel better about it because that’s your work, not mine

It was honestly a pleasant exchange. I’m not mad, nor am I offended. I’m just very, very clear that editing myself to suit others’ preferences is not a thing I’m willing to do anymore. (Also, I would like to be acknowledged for not responding, “Fuck no,” even though I still contend that would have been hilarious.)

I get to ask for the things I want, and others get to accept or decline my request without having to explain themselves to me. And, when others ask me for things, I get to say yes or no and I don’t have to explain myself.

This applies to you too. You get to ask for things. You get to say yes or no without explanation or justification. You get to be who you are independent of other people’s opinions about you. Period.

If that feels impossible, unrealistic, selfish, or otherwise icky or out of reach, we should talk. I get people unstuck so they can live their life authentically, powerfully, and unapologetically. I’m on a mission to support 100 people in 100 days through powerful professional conversations focused on clarity and transformation. Book a free clarity call for yourself here: http://tinyurl.com/altitudeadjustmentintro (or share the link with a friend)

No bullshit. No toxic positivity. (Because fuck that.) Just real talk about who YOU really are.