Altitude Adjustment

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Archives for July 2020

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Day 9: Total commitment

The last week has been a masterclass in commitment versus attachment. I’ve been feeling vaguely but worseningly crummy for days and finally went to the doctor. My covid test was negative, but it turns out I have the flu. The actual flu. Despite not touching anything without immediately washing or sanitizing or being within 6 feet of anyone I don’t live with for more than a few seconds, and always with a mask, for 4 months, I have the flu. If this isn’t proof that I can’t actually control anything, I don’t know what is. 

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But there actually is a lot I can control if I focus on what I’m doing—commitment—and not stress about the specific outcome—attachment. I can’t control what happens but I can control what I do. That brings a lot of peace.

I can’t control how freaking exhausted I am from being sick, but I can control how I use the energy I do have. Today I gave myself permission to reschedule two appointments because I didn’t feel well enough to be present for them. I’m committed that my clients get amazing results from our conversations, so I don’t have to be attached to the exact time those conversations happen. I went back to sleep for 4 more hours because I needed it. No guilt.

I’m committed to being consistent with mask use, distancing, isolation, and hygiene, so even though I got sick I’m not attached to that. I’m relieved that being careful constantly meant I don’t have to worry about having gotten anyone else sick with the flu. No guilt.

I’m committed to washing these damn masks and not attached to how it happens so I threw them in the bath with me so I can multitask. (I’m agitating them with my feet as I write this post from the tub.) No guilt—and the bonus of an entertaining photo that will crack me up a year from now.

Sometimes I get so caught up in the details—the WAY something gets done—that I forget that THAT it gets done is what really matters. This is why I don’t feel bad if sometimes we have cereal for dinner or the house doesn’t get vacuumed for a few extra days. We’re fed. We’re in a reasonably clean living environment. We’re HAPPY. The details don’t matter that much.

So here’s your permission slip to freaking RELAX already. I hereby permit and encourage you to be committed to the big picture and let go of attachment to the details. If your commitment is solid, it all works out. Pinkie swear.

It’s not always easy to make that shift. If you’re feeling stuck with it, let’s talk. I get people unstuck so they can live their life authentically, powerfully, and unapologetically. I’m on a mission to support 100 people in the next 100 days through powerful professional conversations focused on clarity and transformation. Book a free clarity call for yourself here: http://tinyurl.com/altitudeadjustmentintro (or share the link with a friend)

No bullshit. No toxic positivity. Just total commitment.

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Day 8: Certainty

No matter how many times I tell Luna to stay off the couch, this is her default position. She’s picked her spot. She’s staked her claim. She has zero interest in what I think is right for her; she KNOWS where she belongs and she’s not interested in my input.

You know too. You know where you’re supposed to be no matter what anyone else tried to tell you. What would you do if you had Luna’s certainty? That thing you’re afraid to say aloud. That thing you don’t tell anyone. That’s the thing. You should do it.

Don’t believe me? Let’s chat. I’m on a mission to support 100 people in the next 100 days through powerful professional conversations focused on clarity and transformation.

If you’re ready to get clear, get into action, get rid of guilt and shame—book a session with me. If you know someone who’s ready for a shift like this, gift them a session with me.

Book it here: http://tinyurl.com/altitudeadjustmentintro

No bullshit. No toxic positivity. Just 100% pure certainty.

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Day 7: Room to breathe

Reminder: You don’t have to set a new record every day for how much stuff you got done, how many things you crossed off the to-do list, or how much you had your shit together. You can just have a day. Nothing is a waste of time if it feeds your soul.

I get it doesn’t always feel that way. If you need a reboot to remember how good it can feel to just BE instead of having to DO all the time, let’s chat. I’m on a mission to serve 100 people in 100 days through powerful coaching conversations focused on clarity and transformation.

Book your free session here: http://tinyurl.com/altitudeadjustmentintro

No bullshit. No toxic positivity. Just room to breathe.

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Day 6: It’s okay

I don’t know who needs to hear this right now, but

It’s OKAY if you haven’t learned an instrument or taught yourself a new language during lockdown.

It’s OKAY if your house is a mess.

It’s OKAY if your workout plans didn’t work out.

It’s OKAY if all you can do or want to do is just survive right now. That right there is the most important thing.

What’s happening right now in the world is not normal. So if you’re struggling, if you feel like an open wound right now, if you have no idea what you’re doing—that IS normal. That’s a normal human response to the bullshit we’re all dealing with right now. We are not designed for constant, endless, extreme toxic stress. We’re just not. You’re not broken. You’re not even weird. You’re human.

If you’re ready to stop feeling guilty all the time and tap into your awesome survival superpowers instead, let’s chat. I’m on a mission to serve 100 people in 100 days through powerful coaching conversations focused on clarity and transformation. Book your free session here: http://tinyurl.com/altitudeadjustmentintro

No bullshit. No toxic positivity. Just being human together.

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Day 5: Freedom comes from perspective

Most of the time when people find out I live in Leadville they assume it’s because I love the mountains. And I DO love the mountains, but what really made me fall in love was the sky. Until I came here, I never knew it could feel so good to feel so small.

Tonight we drove up a mountain to find a comet. It was absolutely breathtaking.

There’s something incredibly powerful to me about remembering how tiny I am. My problems, my worries, my pressures all shrink as the sky gets bigger and bigger. It reminds me that what I freaked out about earlier today, yesterday, last week, is a blip in the massive universe, so maybe I don’t need to let it run me. Maybe I can just let it be as small as it really is. Maybe I can just breathe and continue on.

What would a perspective shift do for you? Let’s find out. I’m on a mission to support 100 people in 100 days through powerful professional conversations focused on clarity and transformation.

If you’re ready to change your perspective, change your mindset, or change your whole altitude, book a session with me. If you know someone who’s ready, gift them a session with me. There’s no charge for you or them.

Book here: http://tinyurl.com/altitudeadjustmentintro

No bullshit. No toxic positivity. Just freedom.

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Day 4: It’s not that you don’t care

One of my clients shared today that she’s been beating herself up about how she “doesn’t care anymore” ever since lockdown began. This woman is one of the most caring, passionate people I know, so I pushed back and I invited her to take a closer look.

“What if it’s not that you don’t care anymore? What if, without all that overwhelming outside stimuli, your values system has just naturally recalibrated to focus on what really matters to you? And that stuff, you know, really doesn’t?”

When we dug in, we discovered that she had stopped engaging in the stuff she used to do purely for other people’s benefit (because now she doesn’t have to). The truth she found is that she’s actually now more freed up to focus on stuff she really DOES care about. It was one of those “holy shit” moments that makes coaching so much damn fun. “You have to write a post about this,” she told me, so I am!

Here’s my question for you: What are you making yourself wrong for? What if there’s actually a “holy shit” moment on the other side of it if you just look with different eyes?

You have an open invitation to borrow my eyes and see yourself from a different perspective. I’m on a mission to serve 100 people in 100 days through powerful coaching conversations focused on clarity and transformation. If you’re ready to stop making yourself wrong and uncover how powerful you really are, let’s talk. If you know someone who would benefit from this kind of conversation, send them my way.

Book a session here: http://tinyurl.com/altitudeadjustmentintro

No bullshit. No toxic positivity. Just you getting unstuck so you can live your life your way. Let’s go.