Archives for August 2020

I know school starting back up is super stressful. I know you’re endlessly asking yourself if you made the right choice, no matter what choice it was. I know you’re trying to figure out how the hell you’re going to navigate all of this. It’s okay to be freaked out. Truly. That you’re freaking out doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. It’s a normal reaction to this abnormal situation we’ve been dealing with for months. And you will come out the other side of this, because here’s what I also know:

 You are smart. You figure out complicated shit all. the. time. and this will be no different. You got this.

 You are a great parent. I can tell, because you lose sleep over making sure you’re making the best decisions for your kids and you do everything you can to keep them safe every day, just like you have for their whole life.

 You are doing the best you can. You don’t need to compare the best YOU can with the best SOMEONE ELSE can. It’s not relevant. Your best is enough.

 It won’t feel like this forever. Change is hard. Constant change is REALLY hard. And starting something new amid constant change—or doing the same thing you did before but in a radically changed environment—is gonna feel rough. But it won’t feel rough forever. Just for a little while.

If you need support getting out of your head so you can get into action and keep moving forward, let’s talk. Contact me to book a clarity call, and we’ll look at how powerful coaching can help you get your mind and your life where you want them to be.

Stop comparing yourself to other people. Admire them, learn from them, but don’t make yourself wrong for not BEING them. You don’t have to try to blend in or disappear. You’re you. You get to do this life thing YOUR WAY and YOUR WAY is exactly right for you. Don’t believe me? I’ll prove it. Contact me to book your private clarity call and I’ll show you exactly what I mean.

Just because the dog barks doesn’t mean a murderer is breaking in. Sometimes dogs just bark.

Just like sometimes kids just cry.
Just like sometimes partners are just grumpy.
Just like sometimes coworkers are just irritable.
Just like sometimes your brain just gets carried away down some path that’s not helpful.

None of these things actually have to mean anything is wrong, so more often than not, no action required. But so often we panic, we try to fix, we get bark-y, cry-y, annoyed, and carried away too, because we’re uncomfortable and we feel like we need to do something to Stop The Thing That Is Wrong.

It’s okay to just let the thing happen and not try to fix it. Because a lot of the time, there’s nothing to fix. There’s just something to get through and it’s okay. And if there IS something to fix, when your brain is freaking out probably isn’t the best time to tackle it.

Instead let’s tackle it when your brain is calm so you’re ready for next time. A huge part of what I do as a coach is help people figure out the patterns that aren’t working in their life and create new ones. Patterns like fixing when nothing needs fixing. Patterns like getting super agitate when there’s nothing to fix. Patterns like looking for what’s wrong all the time. You name a pattern you don’t love, we can find one that works better and help you set it up in your life.

If that sounds good to you, we should talk. I get people unstuck—and out of patterns they hate—so they can live their life authentically, powerfully, and unapologetically. And you deserve that. So let’s make it happen. Contact me to book your clarity call.

Just because the doorbell rings doesn’t mean you have to answer the door. Just because a thought crosses your mind doesn’t mean you have to entertain it. You get to decide who you let in and what thoughts you keep around.

Not sure how to set up “access control” for your mind? I can help. Contact me to set up a clarity call.

Have you ever house-trained a puppy? It’s messy, frustrating work. You show them over and over what to do, and you’ll still be mopping up pee and cleaning up shit in the house for weeks, maybe even months. It’s one of those things that just takes a little time.

Training your brain is a lot like that. No matter how many times you tell it where to go, it’s gonna make a mess until it learns what to do and figures out to do it every. single. time. And just like with house-training your puppy, you have two choices when it comes to training your brain:

You can hang in there, be consistent, and show it what to do over and over again so the training is done in a few weeks or a few months and you never have to do this again, or

You can just decide to let it do whatever and spend the rest of its life cleaning up its shit every day.

And just like with house-training your dog, when it comes to training your brain on new habits there are techniques to make it go faster. That’s where I come in as a coach. I get my clients unstuck so they can live life the way they want, free from all the shit their brain keeps leaving in the way. If you’re ready to do the work, I’m ready to support you. Contact me to get your clarity call on the calendar. Let’s do this shit.

If you’re worried that people won’t like you if you show up as who you actually are, those aren’t your people. YOUR people love you, admire you, and want you in their life because you’re YOU.

I’m on a mission to serve 100 people in 100 days through powerful coaching conversations. If you’re ready to stop hiding and start living your authentic life, contact me and let’s get you conversation on the calendar.